If you’re feeling like the spontaneity is gone and you just want to get buck wild like it’s the first time again, we’ve put together some ideas to spice things up that won’t take you to the 50 Shades of Grey side of life.
The boring stuff:
Eat right. Sleep more. Exercise daily.
Maintaining a healthy lifestyle can be the difference between you having an all night romp and being out of breathe after 5 minutes.
Sex burns a lot of calories, so having better energy levels = better sex.
The fun stuff:
There is nothing wrong with admitting to yourself that you need a little incentive to get things going. If you and your partner are both ready add a little flavour to your sex life, try out some of these easy tips that are perfect for the tamest or most adventurous couples.
#1 Change the time – Always have sex before bed? One of the easiest switch ups you can do is change the time of day you have sex. Whether its first thing in the morning (after you’ve brushed your teeth) or a quickie at lunch, give your sex life a little more spontaneity. Added bonus of morning sex is you can skip that morning gym sesh – you’re having a better workout anyway.
#2 Costume change – This is one of the most common ways to switch things up in the bedroom, but role playing is a great way to explore your fantasies. Talk to your partner about what you both like and go from there. As much as we advocate wearing sweat pants all day, we can’t deny how much sexier it feels to be wearing lingerie and high heels.
#3 New positions – If missionary is your go-to, its time to do some stretches, grab the Karma Sutra and start trying out some new things. Instigate a “new position rule” and give yourself a real workout.
#4 Sex toys – You don’t need to go hardcore with the sex toys, but picking up a few little bits that you are both interested in exploring each other with will add some extra tension and make for a fun night you won’t forget.
#5 Make it a game night – Whether you stick to strip poker, have an outrageous game of Twister or make up your own rules to your favourite board game, throw a sexy twist to a night that doubles as a date.
#6 Have sex in a new place – Now we’re not saying you need to head down to the beach and roll around in the sand, but finding a new part of the house to have sex in can be just as exciting. Plus if you’re already in the lounge watching a movie, just hit pause, get to it and then resume your movie. Save yourself some work.
#7 Get to sexting – Build the sexual tension through the day with some dirty and flirty texts about what you want to do to each other later on.
#8 Get out of town – Romantic weekends away are the perfect way to get reacquainted with your partner. Not only does it get you out of the house, but if you go somewhere no one knows you, you can both reinvent yourself for the weekend.
Remember: Relationships are all about communication, so your sex life shouldn’t be any different.
How do you add a little spice to the bedroom?
Written by Steph Graham
The girl you want by your side during any major life event, Steph is a decorating boss and a baking Queen. You’ll usually find her getting tipsy at a bottomless brunch, playing basketball and Insta-stalking the Hemsworth brothers.
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