Our living spaces can be a powerful reflection of our life as a whole.
We all know what it’s like when we’ve had a particularly busy week or aren’t feeling great, and our home ends up paying the price with dirty dishes, unwashed laundry and dusty shelves.
But what about our bedroom, the most personal of our spaces? The bedroom is all about rest and intimacy so it can act as a strong reflection of our love and relationship life.
So what kind of things do you need to look out for if you’re wanting to keep, or even find, a loving relationship? We’ve found a combination of tips from Vastu, feng shui and modern psychology to suss out what the state of your bedroom could be saying about your love life, and how you can improve it.
There is a strong connection between physical objects and psychology. A cluttered life often means a cluttered mind.
As Regina Leeds, author of One year to an organised life says, we can sometimes turn physical objects into “talismans”, connecting us to certain memories or times in our lives. Having a lot of clutter in your bedroom can act as a distraction or even as a shield to help you avoid the bigger issues in your life or relationship.
One of the most important rules of feng shui is to remove clutter, and Vastu also recommends clearing clutter from your room, especially under the bed, as it ties your mind to the past.
Whether you’re in a relationship or not, it’s important to have a balance to your bedroom, and to both sides of the bed. This means two bedside tables, with a lamp on each.
Having everything on one side of the bed can represent an imbalance in power, meaning one person may have a more dominant personality or tends to get their way more often. For a relationship to work, both partners need to feel equal and respected, and having feng shui balance can help increase relationship balance.
If it’s just you, a balanced room is said to welcome that special someone into your life. (You can also increase your chances of this by clearing some space for a second person, such as a drawer or cupboard space.)
As we mentioned before, the bedroom is meant for rest and intimacy, so bringing work into your bedroom is never going to be a good idea. Televisions, computers and even books, can distract you not only from getting enough rest, but also from focusing on your relationship and intimacy (and help with avoidance of any problems that need addressing). As a rule, keep work out of the bedroom, but if this isn’t possible, separate your workspace with a screen or even a beaded curtain if you’re feeling funky!
While it’s great to have a balanced, clutter-free room, having a room that’s too perfect 24/7 can mean a desire for control. If it’s just you, and this makes you feel like you can be more adaptable in other areas of your life, then that’s great. But if you’re forcing this perfection on someone else, you may need to address whether there are deeper issues of control.
Tips for improving your love life
There are a few things that are said to add more fire to your flame in the bedroom.
The feng shui element for love and relationships is earth, to nurture here is earth, so objects, colours and images that represent earth or fire are beneficial.
Red and pink are great colours for the bedroom. Red sheets will add some extra spark, but if you use them too often you can be in danger of romantic ‘burn out.’
The back right-hand corner, or south-west corner of the room is the ‘romance/relationship’ area. A pair of pink candles will re-ignite the flame or attract a new one.
Essential oils and scents can be powerful aphrodisiacs. Try ylang ylang, geranium, rose, jasmine or sandalwood.
We hope these tips help you to bring love to, or back to, your life!